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Ohh, you guys.
Is the second trimester not the longest trimester of all time? Okay, maybe the third timester is once you just get OVER it, but with a toddler it seems like this is when shit hit the fan and just took forever. I know ‘ve said it before, but I still don’t know if this pregnancy is harder than my first because I have a toddler, got laid off, and by the looks of it the entire pregnancy will be during a pandemic, or because it just is, but it is shaking up to be drastically different than my first and I think I just haven’t really come to terms with that yet.
So, see how my second trimester really went via FAQs!
Q: What are you buying for baby #2?
Well, not much besides clothes and diapers. There are some smaller things that need to be replaced from when Bruce was a baby, like we need a new bottle warmer, and I need to replace pump parts and storage bottles (you just don’t reuse those kinds of things, ya know?), but we’re not buying any new gear or big items.
I’ve been debating back and forth on a double stroller, and even bought one used off of Facebook Marketplace and tried it out for a bit, but I just didn’t feel like it was the right set up for us for a few reasons:
- What I want for when the baby can be in a stroller without the car seat or bassinet attachment is so different than what I want for when she is still too little to be in the regular stroller seat.
- She is going to be born in November when it’s colder out and we aren’t really going to be getting out on walks or anything (let’s be real we aren’t very consistent ‘walking’ type people even when it is nice out haha).
- When Bruce was a baby I preferred to wear him in a carrier into stores instead of bringing the car seat/stroller, so I’m assuming I’ll do this again with #2.
- Bruce is NOT a stay-in-the-stroller type of kid, so we can’t really count on having two kids in a stroller all the time.
- They are PRICEY and take up a TON of space, so it’s hard to justify spending $700+ on a stroller before even knowing how it’s going to go.
So, I sold the double stroller and decided to keep the original set up we had when Bruce was a baby, and if we go out to walk and need a stroller, then B will go in the stroller and one of us will wear baby, and then invest in something when it doesn’t require a car seat or bassinet to be attached!
Q: How has the pandemic impacted your pregnancy?
Where do I even start? I’ll just list them out for you, haha.
- Prenatal care is vastly different, as at least 50% of what I needed to go in for with Bruce is either now done virtually, combined with another service so it’s all done at once, or they just cut it out altogether.
- I was laid off a few months into the pandemic, and we decided that I would ‘stay home’ (aka not work) for a little while given the timing with how pregnant I was. Because of this, we’ve also changed Bruce’s preschool schedule so he’s now at home more. So – when I was pregnant with Bruce, I was working full-time and commuting every day. Now, I’m a SAHM.
- Speaking of being a SAHM, as much as I truly am enjoying the extra time with B, it’s not at all what I envisioned SAHM life to be, because we can’t. go. anywhere. Even the parks are still closed! Without getting too deep into it, it has just really made the experience a lot different than what I had previously hoped for if I ever became a SAHM.
- Because of the above, I can feel the impact it has had on my mental health. I’m so much more anxious because I don’t feel great about the prenatal care I’m getting, and I don’t have the same things that I enjoyed doing and that gave me a sense of self. I’m having to figure out what that means for me now, and it just weighs on a girl sometimes, ya know?
Q: Have you picked out a name?
Yes! But we’re keeping it a secret until she is born. It’s the one thing we like to keep a surprise for people, and just something we aren’t interested in opinions on before she comes 🙂
Q: How has this pregnancy been different than your first?
Well, you can refer back to the question on how the pandemic has impacted my pregnancy, because I think that covers the majority of it, but there is also a physical aspect that has been much different as well.
I wasn’t in nearly as good of shape when I got pregnant this time as I was when I got pregnant with Bruce, which has resulted in a lot more aches and pains. I unknowingly had Diastasis Recti after B, which of course I didn’t heal, and that has resulted in a lot of pelvic pain. Plus, I just get winded a lot more easily and certainly don’t have the physical capacity to do things like I did when I was pregnant with B.
Q: How has your diet changed with this pregnancy?
I found out I have iron-deficient anemia, so I’ve added an iron supplement to my diet, and I am actively trying to eat more meat and cooked greens (think spinach and kale) to get my iron levels up.
Iron supplements really do a number on your GI system, so I’ve also had to navigate how to best time the supplements and add in other things to my diet to help keep things moving.
So far, what seems to work best is to take my supplement in the middle of the day so my morning cup of coffee has time to work it’s magic, and then I take a magnesium supplement in the afternoon/evenings that originally was for helping me sleep, but also helps with the digestive component as well.
Q: What were your second trimester cravings?
Drinks. Maybe it was because of the summer, but I wanted an ice cold beer or a cold glass of wine SO BADLY. I was the mocktail QUEEN during the second trimester, and needed to drink things other than water.
And I’m counting that as a craving vs. denial and grumpiness about not drinking, because being a couple weeks into my third trimester as I write this up, I truly do not have that same longing for a drink as I did a couple months ago. So, craving it is haha.
Q: Are there any “things” that you couldn’t live without during your second trimester?
Two things: facial wipes and maternity joggers.
Seriously. I never felt like I got that spike of energy back, and was just so pooped at the end of the day that I was neglecting my skincare routine, so I started purchasing these Ursa Major facial wipes to make sure I at least just cleaned my face every night, and I looooove them. They do the best job at removing makeup and dirt than any other brand I’ve tried, and they haven’t irritated or dried out my sensitive skin.
And joggers. So comfy. Perfect for SAHM and prego life. These ones from Amazon are like butter and I wear them almost every day. I really don’t have much else to say about them except I regret is not buying them sooner.
Q: Is there anything you want to do differently this time?
Well, things will already be a lot different because I won’t truly have a ‘maternity leave’, and will have two kiddos at home instead of getting to spend a few months solo with one. So I can’t say it’s something I necessarily wanted to do differently, but it will be different.
But, I will say I have a very different philosophy around feeding this time around. With Bruce, I was adamant that if I was home, I HAD to breastfeed him – aka my husband couldn’t bottle feed him (which he tried to do to help me out and now I cringe thinking about how I didn’t let him). And you bet your butt that is going to be different. I feel so much more educated around pumping and I care less about exclusively breastfeeding that I’m SO DOWN for bottles to be used more so my husband has an extra opportunity to bond with baby, and if for whatever reason we need to supplement with formula (because I am gone, or whatever I am doing), then have at it, my friend. IT IS ALL FINE AND WILL BE FINE. Your baby won’t be any less healthy for it.
So there you have it, a recap of my second trimester the second time around. How did your second (or third, or fourth, etc.!) pregnancy differ from your first pregnancy? I’d love to know in the comments!